It is sad to hear of individuals close to us who have committed suicide because of extreme depression and discouragement.
A very sad young lady walks into my office looking for a pastor for counseling not knowing that she is talking to one. I sat down with her for more than three hours. While sobbing, she was telling me that she wanted to end her life because of a failed relationship. She told me that they were about to get married in a few months but the guy abandoned her for some reason. She was emotionally devastated and hurt deep inside like it seems irreparable. After that talk, I never heard nor saw her for a time.
What is the main cause of this mental condition?
There are many factors involved based on medical professionals but I want to stress the contribution of spiritual depression due to seeming hopelessness.
The Bible listed at least six people who committed such a grievous act. Some of the possible contributing factors are as follows:
- Judas Iscariot – This is due to condemnation and guilt (Matthew 27:5).
- Abimelech – This is due to disgrace, a prideful tradition, and culture (Judges 9:54)
- King Saul – This is because of desperation (1 Samuel 31:4).
- Saul’s Armor-Bearer – This is because of his loyalty to a person. (1 Samuel 31:4-6)
- Ahithophel – This is because of fear for his life. (2 Samuel 17:23)
- Zimri – This is due to hopelessness. (1 Kings 16:18)
Let me be quick to say that these actions are wrong. Nobody has the right to take his own life because it was not us who breathe life into our own body but the Spirit of God Himself.
However valid their reasons maybe it is still not right in the eyes of the Lord because this is murdering one’s own physical body. The Scripture says, “You shall not murder.” (Exo. 20:13)
We are not here to even judge whether a person who commits suicide will be translated immediately to God’s presence or in the tormenting eternal fires of hell. After all, no one knows the heart of any person except the Lord alone.
But the question must be asked. Can a believer be overcome by depression and hopelessness?
It is possible if a believer will lay down his spiritual armor.
Understandably, a healthy family relationship is necessary. But if spiritual growth is not evident due to lack of prayer, Bible reading, and connections with small groups in a local church, then it is possible to be overcome by the condemning words of the enemy. After all, we get our hope from God Himself assuring us by His word.
Not a career nor position!
Not personal identity!
Not any person!
Not even our religion!
If Christ is our hope in this life only, we deserve more pity than any other people. But now Christ has come back from the dead. He is the very first person of those who have died to come back to life. 1 Cor. 15:19-20, God’s Word Translation
Remember the young lady I mentioned? Well, I met her again after a few years. But this time she was different. She is cheerful and very strong in the Lord. She is now back in the church and in her small group. Later did I know how the counseling and her small group friends help her get back on spiritual track to once more being strong in her relationship with God.
As long as you are alive in this world there is hope for every trial, difficulty, challenges, tribulation, trouble, worries, anxiety, heavy burden, physical affliction, world ordeal, adversity, hardship, human tragedy, emotional trauma, setbacks, life’s blow, unwanted problems, personal issues, misfortune, mishaps, human suffering, emotional distress, life’s misery, unhappiness, emotional sadness, emotional heartache, woes, emotional grief, emotional pain, human anguish, agony, discouragement, and testings in life. All of these pales when we place our hope in Jesus Christ!
Let us not be left without any hope because our real hope is only in Christ alone!
Let us drown the voice of the enemy with the words of Jesus Christ who said the following,
“So I tell you to stop worrying about what you will eat, drink, or wear. Isn’t life more than food and the body more than clothes? ‘Look at the birds. They don’t plant, harvest, or gather the harvest into barns. Yet, your heavenly Father feeds them. Aren’t you worth more than they? ‘Can any of you add a single hour to your life by worrying? ‘And why worry about clothes? Notice how the flowers grow in the field. They never work or spin yarn for clothes. But I say that not even Solomon in all his majesty was dressed like one of these flowers. That’s the way God clothes the grass in the field. Today it’s alive, and tomorrow it’s thrown into an incinerator. So how much more will he clothe you people who have so little faith? ‘Don’t ever worry and say, ‘What are we going to eat?’ or ‘What are we going to drink?’ or ‘What are we going to wear?’ Everyone is concerned about these things, and your heavenly Father certainly knows you need all of them. But first, be concerned about his kingdom and what has his approval. Then all these things will be provided for you. ‘So don’t ever worry about tomorrow. After all, tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matt. 6:25-34, God’s Word Translation
“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” Jn. 16:33, English Standard Version
Once these happen, someday we will hear the words of our Savior saying,
“Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little; I will set you over much. Enter into the joy of your master.” Matt. 25:23, English Standard Version
We can surely overcome this world by our faith in Him. Our time is in the hands of God, not ours.
For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world except the one who believes that Jesus is the Son of God? 1 Jn. 5:4-5, English Standard Version
My times are in your hand… Psa. 31:15, English Standard Version
Remember, God is a forgiving God. He has and is willing to forgive you of all your sins no matter how huge or small it is in the eyes of man. All you need to do is to acknowledge that you have sinned against Him. Believe His word that He has already forgiven you.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 Jn. 1:9, English Standard Version
As far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our sins from us. Psa. 103:12, English Standard Version